Thank you to our guest blogger, Kate, from Spouses in the City for this article.
How often do you show your friends/family how much they mean to you? With all the responsibilities and obligations of life it’s very easy to let the people you care about most slip through the cracks. I will be the first to admit that I am guilty of letting weeks go by without a quick phone call or email to my far away friends/family or letting the chaos of life get in the way of making quality time for those closest to me.
Over the weekend I spent time reflecting on how blessed I am to have the friendships I have and realized my effort is sometimes less then stellar. If I have enough time in my day for Pinterest and Facebook, then I have enough time in my day to reach out to my friends/family who mean the world to me. The rusty wheels in my brain started to spin and I came up with a list of 5 ways to show appreciation in a friendship.
- send a card – as automated as it may sound, pick one friend or family member a week to mail a card to. It could be a “just because” card, “thank you for being you” card or a card to make them laugh. Whatever it is, take the time to let that person know you are thinking of them.
- schedule lunch or dinner – life is crazy busy for most of us, but make time once or a few times a month for your friends and family. Take them to lunch, cook dinner, venture out to happy hour or enjoy a cup of coffee on a Sunday morning. It’s like anything else in your life…schedule it and there is no reason to cancel unless Montezuma’s Revenge has taken over your belly.
- call, email or text – this is a topic of contention for some…technology. For many of us a phone convo is tough to fit into a daily schedule, but a quick email or simple text to say hello or I’m thinking of you is just as thoughtful. I chat with my friends who live 3000 miles away from me every few weeks or even every other month. Do we both wish we talked more often? Yes. Do we get our panties in a bunch if the other person hasn’t called in a couple months? No. That’s what true friendship is about…life is busy, so you should be able to pick up right where you left off no matter how much time passes. As I mentioned above though, a quick email or text to see how life is going is a must more then every month. That’s the wonderful thing about technology…you can stay in touch in so many different ways now.
- inquire about THEIR interests – when you do have a chance to chat ask them about how THEY are doing. We all have so much going on in our lives so it’s easy to get caught up in talking about what is going on with you, but don’t forget to ask about their life. Find out what’s new, hobbies they have taken up, favorite restaurants they have tried, new friends they have met or anything that is new in their life. A word to the wise…people who talk about themselves ALL of the time are not worth your time. That is a high maintenance friend and life is too short to spend your time with those peeps.
- show your gratitude – this one is pretty self explanatory, but an easy one to forget. When you have those friends/family who love you unconditionally and understand that it’s not personal when you don’t speak often; it’s easy to forget to show your gratitude. Thank them for just being in your life and being a wonderful friend. Send a card, call, email, mail flowers or anything else that expresses your gratitude for having them in your life.
The next time you sit down at your computer or pick up your Smartphone, take a minute to reach out to one of your friends or family. Think about it as making one of your loved ones feel extra special each day. It only takes a minute, literally, a minute so there is no excuse for letting those you care about slip through the cracks. Friendships and relationships are a two way street. Effort is needed by both, so take one of the five things above and show your appreciation.
co-creator | Spouses in the City