Here’s why Fox News owes a military kid an apology


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This is an opinion piece that reflects the views of the author but does not necessarily reflect the views and opinions of MilitaryOneClick.

By Babette Maxwell

Last week was a big week for military spouses.  All military spouses.  The week was filled with major events focusing on advocacy, leadership, and networking.  To top it off, Friday was Military Spouse Appreciation Day.

During this week the current administration typically has an event or two where military spouses and their families are invited into the White House.  Last week was no exception.

In fact, one military child in particular made national news when he was accidentally “bopped” in the face by Vice President Mike Pence. The little boy, Michael, made news when he followed the Vice President around the room to ask for an apology from the second most powerful world leader.  He can be heard on a hot mic repeatedly asking for what most adults would consider a common courtesy.  A courtesy that Pence himself extended when Michael was finally able to get his attention.

The video became an overnight sensation. But there’s also a little more that can’t be seen just by watching the clip. Michael is a special needs child. He’s autistic and his mother, Ingrid Herrera-Yee, is a mental health care specialist who dedicates her life to working with those in need.

So, there were literally no words from this Fox News watcher’s mouth when Bill Hemmer and Tammy Bruce seized on the incident to muse that Michael was a “snowflake” who in his fervent efforts to “stalk” the Vice President was actually in need of a “safe space.”

Their words, my friends.

I literally sat there in shock, certain I had misheard these two adults.  I quickly grabbed the DVR to rewind and watch again.  And again.

Suddenly, three words formed.  And they began with W, T, and F.

As a parent, I wanted to shield Ingrid, who is a personal friend of mine, from what obviously was an attack on her 10- year-old son.  As a mother myself, I felt the overwhelming need to sharpen my talons. On Bill Hemmer’s desk. As a military spouse, I am not only shocked, but I am so very disappointed in the bottom-of-the-barrel antics Fox News seems to be stuck pilfering through to find a topic of substance.

Wow.  Just wow.  What were they thinking? Did they really use their national platform to poke fun at and take issue with the behavior of an 10-year-old, special needs military child?  Are they so vastly out of touch that they don’t see how bullying is a national conversation piece and that teaching children to speak out has been decades in the making for most parents?

Professionals using words like “snowflake,” “stalking,” and “safe spaces” to describe a child is not only a stark reminder that adults can bully, but also that nothing is off-limits.

And, then it hit me: The issue is two-pronged.

1.  How did even the most casual of watchers not notice this child was autistic? (Have we failed that much that we haven’t educated and informed people sufficiently?)

2. The media should never poke fun, skewer, or lambaste a child. Period.

First, Michael exhibited all the classic symptoms of a child on the spectrum.  Who Tammy Bruce described as angry–his head-tilting was her “cue”–was a child who has only been verbal for five years.  A child who may have difficulty understanding personal space issues or noticing people’s feelings and interacts largely to achieve a goal (say, to request an apology).  Children with autism may not want to be touched– they may not enjoy physical contact at all and typically will not seek comfort from a parent when in doubt. Children with autism may repeat things over and over (“Excuse me.  Excuse me.”), even when answers are given to questions. Rarely do physical gestures, like tilting your head, “match” the words they are using to express themselves.  In fact, the Center for Disease Control suggests that children with autism speak more like “little adults” than children.

Autism affects 1 in 110 children in the United States.  While it crosses both ethnic and social lines, boys are sometimes five times as likely to develop it.

I struggle deeply with the callousness with which Fox News aired this segment. The ignorance displayed towards a special needs child is disgustingly apparent. And, yet, is likely a byproduct of ignorance, lack of education, and lack of commitment to the truth.

Second, when did it become okay for adult journalists to make a child the subject of their news segment?  This goes against every thing we teach our children about adults and bullying. I think the words “snowflake” and “safe space” are the ones that confuse me the most. These are very politically charged words used historically by “the right” to describe “the left”. . . and yet Fox News used them to describe a child.

A minor.

A 10-year-old special needs boy who was just excited to be at the White House with his mom and who was doing his absolute best to communicate his thoughts and feelings.

To say nothing of Michael specifically, it’s never okay for any news brand to use a child without the consent of his parents as the brunt of their joke or the focus of their news. And, if we don’t tell them it’s not okay? The line of what we accept as tolerable just keeps getting moved further and further back.

Fox News, this is not okay.  You cannot use a minor–special needs or not–as the salacious seller of your media.  Not ever. And to borrow a few words from my 10-year-old friend, Michael, “Excuse me.  You owe us all an apology.”

Babette is the Vice President of Partnerships for MilitaryOneClick. She is the also the founder of Military Spouse magazine and the Military Spouse of the Year Awards. She is a fifth generation military “last four” and her husband recently retired after 20 years in the Navy.

6 Comments

  1. Rudeness has become the norm these days , & SADLY people are doing the ” eye for an eye ” type of justice these days ! Not everyone , but more Americans are just PLAIN RUDE than at any time that I can remember ! RESPECT for others , including children , special needs kids , the handicapped , minorities, women , it doesn’t MATTER these days to quite a few Americans !!! Respect for ALL people is one of the things that has made this country GREAT , but now we’ve lost respect & love for one another ! I hope & pray that this trend turns around soon , or we are on TROUBLE as a country !!!

  2. There was simply no excuse for their behavior. Irregardless of whether they recognized he has autism, he is a child! A military child at that…meaning he has likely endured more hardship that most Americans will in a lifetime these days. As a journalist, I have long had issue with Fox News, which is NEVER “fair and balanced”…but it is one thing to call me – a military spouse who can defend herself – “a snowflake”…it is quite another to insinuate that of any child, much less a military kid. They should be ashamed!

  3. So sad! I wish I could say I’m appalled, but I considered the source. I am outraged, though, and I think Fox News owes Michael, his mother, and the audience at large a great BIG apology!

  4. Boys are five times more likely to be DIAGNOSED. It’s an important distinction when our girls are consistently being underserved and underrepresented because reinforcement of stereotypes means girls have to fight for diagnosis.

  5. There really is no excuse. Whether or not a child is autistic or they realize it, there’s no excuse for a group of adults who should very well know better making fun of a child on national television! That is unheard of, and it’s quite clear who in this situation truly needs to be better educated on big boy manners. It’s not Michael.

    That precious little boy did nothing wrong and in fact did everything right. He had exceptional manners– better than most neurotypical adults– and the vice president did an excellent job of handling the situation.

  6. I have a son that is autistic, and I did not realize the boy was autistic, until his mother came on CNN to discuss the event. So do not say that it was obvious that he was autistic because it was not. He appears to be mildly autistic. He probably has gotten great therapy over the past 5 to 7 years. His behavior at the White House did seem a little over the top when I first saw the clip, but the boy’s response makes a lot of sense now knowing he is autistic. I do agree that the gal on Fox News should not have called him a “snowflake”, even if he was not autistic. So an apology is owed to the boy and his family (but no one else).

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